Epiphanies

epiphany I had this article idea in my head for a while now so I’m glad to finally share my thoughts on this subject.

What are epiphanies? Epiphanies are those “A-HA!” moments that completely change the way you view yourself or the world. Why do I think they’re one of the greatest things in life? Because they instantly change the way you feel about something and they practically reshape you into a new person. I guess the concept is similar to “learning from your own mistakes”. You learn from your mistakes, although it would be better if you managed to extract that knowledge from others’ experience. Same goes for epiphanies, but another way to look at it is.. people have a revelation about something when they’re ready for it (after years of not embracing a concept because it doesn’t match their way of thinking).

The following list may sound trivial to you, but if your first reaction “yeah, whatever.. everyone knows that” you should ask yourself if you internalized that concept. In other words, there’s a huge difference between knowing how to do something and actually doing it. When you behave in a certain fashion and it feels natural to you, only then you can say your thoughts and your actions are congruent. So here are just a few of my epiphanies:

  • Stepping up and facing the things that scare you. In other words: “go for it” or “just do it”. I internalized this concept in college. There was a class in which, in order to get points, you had to volunteer, go to the chalkboard and solve problems. This would have seriously affected my final score if it wasn’t for a colleague of mine who has absolutely no sense of the ridicule. He kept pushing me in front of the others, making me feel more and more uncomfortable, until I was so pissed off that I said “OK ALREADY, I’ll do it”. And I did. And I kept doing it until I got all my points.
  • Don’t underestimate your resourcefulness in almost-impossible situations. This also happened in college. There was a really tough exam for which I had studied for 5 days in a row. One night before the exam I was so tired that I almost wanted to quit and not attend the exam at all. To top it off, there was one more problem type I had to learn to solve and it was the hardest of all, also requiring considerable solving time. It would have been a pity to give up after all the hard work. But I was    SO    tired. Anyway, I finally bit my lip and gave myself a push: with the help of the almighty Coke I stayed up for about 4 hours. I had to memorize a lot of complicated formulas and there was simply no time to learn them logically. So I made up some really weird mnemonics in order to remember them, out of desperation. To my astonishment , I actually remembered the formulas while taking the exam, although it took a considerable amount of concentration. Outcome: I passed that exam. I was surprised to see that a very bright colleague of mine failed that exam, which was inconceivable for him. A-HA!!!
  • People are not as interesting or successful as they appear. I learned this by watching a very charismatic friend of mine take over conversations and be the center of attention every time I went out with him and other people joined. He told the same stories over and over. And they worked. They became boring for me, but if there was a single person at the table that hadn’t heard them before, his success was guaranteed. After that I started noticing all kinds of patterns in people I met. Similarly, I wrote in a previous post that people are more fucked up than you think. I guess another way to put it is.. everybody wears a mask.
  • This applies only to guys: persistence may prove successful. I learned this in a beautiful way: out of sheer naiveness. My first date ever didn’t go too well. The thing is, the girl didn’t explicitly tell me to fuck off so I called her house every week. She kept making excuses not to go out with me. I was too naive to get the hint, so I kept calling. After a couple months she finally accepted to go out with me again and we stayed together for quite a while. At one point she told me that she appreciated the fact that I fought for her. Anyway, I have to enforce the fact that this does not apply to girls, because guys have a different thinking system and they make up their minds from the beginning. A persistent girl will lose her dignity in the process and she will get a pity fuck, at most.

As I said.. it is one thing to agree with something, while internalizing it is a whole different story. But if there was just one idea I’d like you to extract from this article is: always look for those A-HA moments in your life. Turn simple experiences that you’d otherwise take for granted into epiphanies. It’s up to you how quickly you want to improve.

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11 Comments

  1. Posted December 1, 2008 at 9:29 am | Permalink

    U are right! I did have a few epiphanies in my life (maybe not as many as you) and they really are moments to take into account.

  2. curarelobi
    Posted December 1, 2008 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

    Please, share with us :)

  3. Posted December 1, 2008 at 5:47 pm | Permalink

    Well, they are my “Secrets” section. Sorry

  4. stefania
    Posted December 1, 2008 at 11:01 pm | Permalink

    i have this kind of things everyday and i call them coincidences because i look for them in order to improve my current way of living. yet with all those a-ha in my mind i realized that to much unapplied knowledge turns into a depression. also you may have every chances that those a-ha are wrong while based on a wrong perception of reality

    ps are you absolutely sure about the last point??

  5. stefania
    Posted December 1, 2008 at 11:12 pm | Permalink
  6. curarelobi
    Posted December 2, 2008 at 9:29 am | Permalink

    you cannot have epiphanies every day.. that’s why you call them coincidences :)
    another reason I don’t think you have epiphanies, at least by my definition in this article, is the fact that you call them unapplied knowledge.
    also, epiphanies change the way you think and act.. but, as you said.. they can be wrong, so it’s not always a change for the better.

    PS. I am abso-freakin-lutely positive on the last point.

  7. curarelobi
    Posted December 2, 2008 at 3:31 pm | Permalink

    Slabutz linkul.. daca bati acolo unde cred eu.. gandeste-te ca se poate ajunge la un punct in care persoana curtata devine iritata (deci nu este respectata), ceea ce inseamna ca i s-a incalcat “human dignity”-ul si nu e the other way around.

  8. Stefania
    Posted January 30, 2009 at 8:37 pm | Permalink

    I’m sorry. For everything

  9. Posted February 11, 2009 at 12:17 am | Permalink

    Update: With you along, my life seems to be so easy!
    Ps. cand ai updatat ceasul pe ora romaniei?? azi am observat…

  10. Posted February 26, 2009 at 12:19 am | Permalink

    stii ce am observat? articolele tale in engleza se apropie mai mult de nivelul spiritual-intuitiv… ba chiar as spune ca te exprimi mai bine, as in inspiring, in engleza decat in romana :)

  11. Posted October 12, 2009 at 4:20 pm | Permalink

    C’mon… uite ce avatar cute am :) )

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